Give me my Right Hand
I have been reading a book on how Asian girls, to be precised, chinese girls find successes in careers and love in a foreigner city like New York, amidst all the white guai low supremercy. It wasn't easy. Especially in love. Chinese parents go into trance when their daughters bring home white dudes. I can only imagine. It makes me realise something, amidst all these cultural issues, women changed more than men do.
I mean, back in my mama's era, women were expected to stay at home and look after the children, grandparents, dogs, cats etc. And they loved the idea. But in mine, we want to have the options to work so that we can still afford our guccis and pradas without throwing our male counterparts into frenzy. The asian men haven't changed much. They still wish that, within their capabilities, their wives can stay at home to take care of the pigs. And essentially that's the ultimate dreams for many asian women. Except that we don't like you to think that we are under the men's control. We don't like you to think we have to stay at home to cook and serve you. But we love to. It is like the more you want to conform us to a sterotype, the more we want to break out of it. We love to stay at home and prepare the 10 course dinner because we love you, not because you want us to.
I personally don't think that staying at home is degrading, nor is shelling the prawns for your partner. But if he is to come up to me to say I expect you to shell it for me. I will shove it up his ass. Which ,maybe, to the men is really contradicting. We, women, like contradictions, the more contradicting the better. Isn't relationship about complementing each other? Like if he can't seem to shell the prawns to save his stomach, then I will do that for him, well unless I have a new manicure, then I might get him to eat the prawn whole.
I frankly think that we can't defy the genetic makeup of our gender. Yes, we scream that men have no respect for us by making us slave in the kitchen, then we would happily go to the supermarket to buy a ribeye to prepare for dinner because he moaned about his cravings in the morning. We are born to care. We can't defy that. But we don't want to make it seem so easy for him. So, the next time, give us choices, or liberty as we like it to sound, and for all you know, it might end exactly the way you want it.
And I just might be your left feet.
I mean, back in my mama's era, women were expected to stay at home and look after the children, grandparents, dogs, cats etc. And they loved the idea. But in mine, we want to have the options to work so that we can still afford our guccis and pradas without throwing our male counterparts into frenzy. The asian men haven't changed much. They still wish that, within their capabilities, their wives can stay at home to take care of the pigs. And essentially that's the ultimate dreams for many asian women. Except that we don't like you to think that we are under the men's control. We don't like you to think we have to stay at home to cook and serve you. But we love to. It is like the more you want to conform us to a sterotype, the more we want to break out of it. We love to stay at home and prepare the 10 course dinner because we love you, not because you want us to.
I personally don't think that staying at home is degrading, nor is shelling the prawns for your partner. But if he is to come up to me to say I expect you to shell it for me. I will shove it up his ass. Which ,maybe, to the men is really contradicting. We, women, like contradictions, the more contradicting the better. Isn't relationship about complementing each other? Like if he can't seem to shell the prawns to save his stomach, then I will do that for him, well unless I have a new manicure, then I might get him to eat the prawn whole.
I frankly think that we can't defy the genetic makeup of our gender. Yes, we scream that men have no respect for us by making us slave in the kitchen, then we would happily go to the supermarket to buy a ribeye to prepare for dinner because he moaned about his cravings in the morning. We are born to care. We can't defy that. But we don't want to make it seem so easy for him. So, the next time, give us choices, or liberty as we like it to sound, and for all you know, it might end exactly the way you want it.
And I just might be your left feet.
3 Comments:
haha
You should have seen my father-in-law when I asked for his daughter's hand. Classic Chinese FIL Gwailoh SIL moment.
So glad she love me to cook despite making triple my salary. Really blessed!
I wish I could find someone who would let me stay at home. I wouldn't mind cooking and cleaning etc as long as I didn't have to worry about money.
Yah, I wish I don't have to worry about money too. The cooking part will be a problem though. Hey what doesn't kill you (in the stomach) only make you stronger.
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